What is Love?

I did much in life for love.

I did more in life to protect future love, even though I’m not gauranteed it will be there.

I gave up love in the past for the hope of a greater love in the future.

Was it even love that I gave up? Are there different levels of love?

Apart from love for parents, siblings, friends and so forth, are there levels of love within the love you have for a partner?

How can you love a partner and yet leave them?

Is self love an over riding factor of the love you would have for others? Is self love a type of defence mechanism that protects your heart and soul? Does it act like a platform for which all love grows?

“I would do anything for you” is often a statement made in loving relationships. However, when it boiled down to everyday reality, I found that statement not to be true.

I don’t know about love anymore. I feel disillusioned with it all. I seen samples of it in my life, those universal samples seen in movies and T.V. The romatic dinners, walks, dogs, dancing and the rest.

However, I haven’t yet witnessed love for the deep understanding and committment to another during the down times. The empathetic understanding and agreement to bring life in a direction that is best for the unit, not necessarily the individual.

Why do 50% of marriages fail? Do we witness a “first level” of love and commit to a life with another person, without knowing the other levels? Do we act out the symbolic love scenes in movies and T.V, believe that it is truth, and then commit our lives to someone who engaged in the same courtship process?

Perhaps love is not the romantic dinners, walks on the beach and so forth.

Perhaps love is helping the blind cross the road, changing the diapers of your grandparents or parents, the taking in of a stray dog, the fostering of a child, the cooking of an apple pie for a old man living alone, the working in the coalmine to put food on the table?

Perhaps love should be defined more by the unattractive, undesirable things that we do because we are committed to the well being of those we love.

Perhaps our society has lost touch with the unattractive parts of love. Perhaps this is why marriages fail? Because movies have not glorified the real hardships of maintaining a loving relationship over decades?

Next time we want to show our partners we love them, let’s not try the iconic flowers and dinner, things that you will enjoy also. Let’s try digging in with them doing something that you don’t want to do, but something they must do. Imagine the surprise on their face when they see you doing something that even they don’t want to do. To me that’s love. Going through the trenches knowing that someone is there with you.

What good is a partner if they’re only around to enjoy the iconic demonstrations of love?

Who is a genuine person?

This is a question on my mind lately and it’s full of skeletons.

I’ll explain why I believe this to be a bit of a mind bender matrix style question.

Let’s move from simple observations to deeper levels of understanding. To know if someone else is genuine you must first look at the world and people around you and then take a closer look at yourself.

The world first:
Look at how wars are started. The reasons for which they are started. Blackmail, hate, distrust, love and lies. The world itself has “Economic Hitmen.” People working for governments who convince countries to take out loans with the offer to have experienced skilled corporations enter the country, create infastructure and teach them abour westernised technologies and capitalism. The borrowed country pays what it borrowed straight back into the hands of the country that gave the loan. The foreign corporations that entered the country continue to pay taxes, create employment and drive up stocks in the home market.

Did anyone tell the smaller country they were getting raped? What is harder to swallow is that leaders who overthrew their home governments in order to cease the pivliging of their citizens’ taxes, taxes utilised to repay interest on foreign loans, were threatened, overthrown by imposters or brutally murdered. By whom? Well you can put one and one together yourself. And if you can’t. Look up books like “Economic Hitman” by John Perkins.

The People Around Us:
How often have you been out with a friend who blatenly lies to someone you don’t know? How often have you been with a family member who has blatently lied to another family member and you knew it? Need I say more about the ability to lie to one’s friends and family?

Ourselves:
Lied to seem cool? Lied to make friends? White Lies to impress upon your Mr. or Mrs. Charming? Lied to save your ass? Lied to yourself?

Where do you think all these lies get you or us or me?

There are many people that are offering groundbreaking studies on the power of thought. Truth in your thoughts. Gratitude in your thought. Self-realisation in your thoughts. Autonomity of thought.

Yada yada……what am I saying?

Jerry Stocking discusses and trains people to become conscious of thier thoughts. His training, if you’re brave enough to go through, will smash your paradigm of who you really are. We create lies to hide behind lies to hide behind lies. One way to look at it is like this: Have you felt the need to tell someone how you feel or give them something, like a hug, but you didn’t?

That’s the a baseline for you to look at. Why didn’t you give them a hug when you wanted to, you didn’t because you were afraid to. You feared the unknown consequence. Fear of rejection? You feared how it would be percieved; by them and maybe even by yourself. So what did you do? You lied to yourself something that allowed you to walk away from the moment and from what you really wanted to say or do.

Were you being genuine?

A millionaire coach named T Harv Eker who discusses the associations we make when children. How we associate certain learnings in our lifes with occurences that were beyond our control at that time.

We live with the barriers and impossibilities right through adulthood unless we sit down with ourselves take a long hard look, proactively strip back the masks and question our believes.

Carl Jung has a beutiful quote. ( persecuted by the governement and his work destroyed ). The quote was about a process he called indivduation. A process of exploring yourself and finding out who you really are. Past the ego and deeper. He believed when we truly realised who we are we can live much more fulfilled lifes. Paraphrased it sounds something like “a modern person must be aware of their dreams, explore religions and spirtuaity, and question the current operative societal structure ( rather than live blindly according to norms or customs. )

With modern day living, most people don’t have the time to explore things they like doing, don’t mind sitting down to explore the innerself and all that mombo jumbo.

Genuine: definition

adjective
1. of the original stock; purebred
2. really being what it is said to be or coming from the alleged source or origin; not counterfeit or artificial; real; true; authentic
3. sincere and frank; honest and forthright

So when looking for someone genuine, what are the chances of finding someone?

When looking for someone genuine, can you give it in return?

Know ThySelf “γνῶθι σεαυτόν”

It’s interesting. This journey to wealth that I am on.

Interesting because it has not at kept in line with how I thought it would run.

You know, when I began this journey, I was in a very safe environment. I had a corporate job, a beautiful fiancée, a Dalmatian and Mancunian terrier, and two spare rooms in a big house.

It’s funny. We were on a cruise-ship, at the front. It was late at night. The stars sparkled and we made a commitment to go after the dream together. It was a “Titanic Moment.”

For some reason, I thought that it would be a simple journey my partner and I would make together. I’m not exactly sure why she didn’t take the leap with me. I took a look down the line and seen heartache. I seen myself blaming her for not working with me to achieve our dreams.

I soon found out that they were my dreams. Hers were different. I think. I suppose we both went through some emotional times over the last year together. And I suppose we both felt like the other was letting us down in some way.

I made the leap alone. Now I live with my grandparents and use a back room as an office. It’s lovely. But it’s still the grandparents place. Not at all how I envisioned life only a few short months ago.

So why am I telling the world this. Some day. Some day, people are going to be interested in this journey I have taken. They’ll make similar decisions. Decisions to chase the dream. I’ve watched maybe a dozen interviews with successful entrepreneurs on a site called CMYPITCH.COM and I have to admit it helps to keep me sane.

It’s would be easy to look at this specific moment in time and say “What the hell am I doing?” but fortunately I have wisdom imparted with me from these people that have made the journey. Frequent comments from them are statements like “It’s a lonely road being an entrepreneur” “Everyone, even your family, will tell you that your mad”

Luckily I have a supportive family, but when I reminisce about the woman I loved, the woman I was prepared to spend my life. My entire life. I remember watching the cartoon “Up”, holding my woman’s hand and looking into her eyes 40 years from now. It’s a dam shame. It really is.

Luckily I found that she was not as committed as I was to our life together as I was. I was truly lucky to have found out the truth before I got married. How lucky am I?

It’s wise not to rush into things in life. Words only mean so much. Action say the rest.

Anyhow, the learning from all this is that your life will change. Your environment will change. Your time will be spent in a different way. Everything will change. So be careful. Be sure that you want the dream. Because it will more than likely change your entire life before bringing you to your landing zone. Enjoy the journey. And always remember who you are along the way. Don’t forget why you wanted it and why you were willing to sacrifice. Even when times seem low!

Best of luck on your journey. Your adventure.

By the way Know Thyself is a Greek aphorism though to be attributed to at least six ancient Greek sages including Pythagoras, Socrates and Heraclitus. Rest assured the journey you are on is one that other great men have traveled.

Be kind…..give your love away!

Sometimes you have to wonder if everyone in life pulls the “Obama” trick, the trick that has been played on the masses for hundreds, if not thousands of years!

How many times have you been told something by someone and then they do the complete opposite?

Too many is my guess. I used to think I expect to much from people and that I needed to lower my expectations. Now, I wonder if maybe I am sucker!?

Bend over and take it again.

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Well, this story is a story of my life and all my thoughts and wonderings on the way to finding wealth in this world.

Since I started I have found that the definition of wealth has changed dramatically for me. Not even in a monetary sense. Sure my monetary definition of wealth has changed but so too has the entire definition.

Wealth can now be understood in the physical sense. Health is so very important. Keeping fit, running, weight lifting, jumping and general exercise have become paramount to maintaining the dream of wealth and a millionaire mind. How can you feel like a millionaire if you feel fat and lazy?

Wealth has also changed in the spiritual sense for me. It used to be about understanding of a higher presence and behaving ethically while being challenged with this life. Today it is much different. Today it is a pro active engagement with the world around me and with my own mind. A higher level of consciousness. Understanding what people are really saying, understanding what I’m really saying. How often do we speak without thinking how we are truly affecting other people? How often are we really in control of our mouths? Are we just being cautious with our mouths or are we pro actively using our mouths for the benefit of ourselves and those around us?

What’s more, how loyal are you to those same words you have used in the past? Surly white lies and over dramatizing feelings cannot hurt that much? You can answer that yourself. But what I have realized is that it’s ME that has to live with ME and nobody else. How enjoyable do I want to make my life when no one is around? The thoughts we have must be guided to higher levels of awareness and happiness.

Nothing in this world makes you happy!!!!

1. Money
2. clothes
3. people
4. cars
5. property
6. promises

Nothing will make you happy unless you give it the power to make you happy!!!!!

This means we can control our happiness, our enthusiasm for life; we simply attribute everything with happiness and then we become happy.

It’s all in the mind.

What is worth mentioning though is how you feel bad sometimes! Ask yourself why you feel bad and then simply ensure that you don’t do, act, or say anything even remotely close to what made you feel bad.

I had a lover once that wanted nothing more in the world but to be with me and bare my children. I loved her for it. I thought it was healthy until I seen the rest of her life fade away, her friends, her hobbies, interests, nothing seem to motivate her anymore unless it meant us relaxing, walking the dogs or making dinner.

Yes, of course this is a noble and very loving way to be. I can see it in my future. But I had to make the decision for her. Only in her mid twenties, I had to push her back into the world so that she could grow. Her infatuation with me was destroying her soul. I love her. I always will.

Now, I am left without that her love……everyday asking why did I do it?……..it would have been so comfortable to have her love with me at all times………have I sacrificed my love so that she may grow?

Wealth……….Sometimes you must lose to win.

Your thoughts please!!! A partner in Life?

Do you ever find a partner in life?

If you do, do you both agree on path together?

OR

Do you get married etc and carry on working towards separate goals?

One focuses on their career and the other like wise?

Is it possible for both to focus on a career together? A career in choosing the best possible path to happiness and freedom?

Freedom in terms of free time. Free time to enjoy life, kids a partner etc?

What do you do if you find that you can marry someone and have kids, but know in your heart that as time passes so too will the distance between you.

Distance, because you both chose a path that was actually what you thought the other wanted,

or you were afraid to go after what you wanted for fear that the other will not approve, in which case resentment builds?

Please comment, let me know your thoughts.

Life is a Whirlwind

There just never seems to be enough time in the day. So many things that I want to accomplish, so many task left undone of half done. Suppose it just takes time. Baby steps. I heard a saying once.

“If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing imperfectly”

So to me that implies that action should be taken towards the goals. Even if they are only half done. Even if thought of those witnessing the “half done effort” put forward makes you cringe, then still do it. Next time you work on it it could be 3/4 done. The time after that, it could be completely done.
What if I had of waited until I was to do it perfectly? Well, my guess is I probably never would have done it

That being said, it helps me come to terms with taking some time to myself and my partner. Some time to slow down and switch off. My mind is always running. Even when I go to bed my mind is racing about this possibility and that one. I’m in the process of trying to actively slow down.
This wasn’t an easy thing to do mind you. My partner and I quarreled about our responsibilities to each other and we highlighted our weak areas to one another. You see we are currently engaged. I suppose I feel, we feel, that during this time period we have to bash out the problems, find solutions and figure out a win / win situation.
To make things work (this ties into my slowing down and taking time to myself) we wrote up a schedule. We scheduled in personal time. We call it “Us Time” by which we can do stuff together. Like choose photos for the house, look up inspirational quotes that can be decorated and framed for the house or foot rubs and you know where I’m going with this?

So part of schedule is to just slow down and be together. It is give an take tough. I now have her commitment to supporting me and working with me to achieve our goals. No better person for it. She was a PR Consultant and we work well together. She’s a brilliant life partner and I couldn’t see my life any other way.

I was going to write up some details for where I stand at the moment. What technologies I was looking at, how I’m planning and what tools I’m using. But she’s upstairs waiting for me AND work will be here tomorrow. There’s no rush. My dreams and goals are already on their way to me. I’ve taken steps. Half assed be it, but I’ve taken steps towards them and so they shall meet me half-way

God Bless