Power is only powerful when you give it away

We have this idea in our heads that if we deny sombody of something that we posses, then we have control over them. We figure they will bend to our will becuase we hold something that they want.

Be it love, attention, opportunities, money, or just a phone call.

Little games we play in our heads. A boss does not commend you or promote you because it takes away from their independence when they show they rely on you. We won’t say anything because we don’t want to jeapordise our livlihoods, our income, our happiness achieved indirectly from income. We suffer the indignity of it.

A man withholds his phone call to a woman for a period of time, to make her wait, make her eager. Holding on to the power by protecting control of his mind and heart because he fears it will be rejected, and he’d rather suffer alone his way than be rejected and be alone.

A woman witholds her committment to her partner because she’s afraid she can’t live up to expecations. Rather maintain the power and fail how she wants to fail rather than fail by others expectations.

We withhold demonstrations of our love for others because they withhold it from us.

In each of these situations, we actually loose our own power when we try to posses it and protect it.

What would happen if you were brave and demonstrated your love? Would you feel empowered after the initial fear and you accomplished it?

What if you made the phone call so you could observe how keen he or she is to know you, instead of lowering their ego by withholding or pretending you don’t care.

What if you told your boss what you thought of him/her and that if things didn’t change you’d have to make things change by leaving or whatever?

The relief that is felt when we are true to ourselves is extraordinary. Sometimes the only way we can be powerful is by putting the ball back in other peoples court so that you can observe and prepare for what comes back.

When we let the power or “ball” sit in thier court or our own court for too long, we diminish our own power and stiffle the natural balance of energy.

Try it for a day or two.

Say what you think, give the power away and see what happens. I promise you’ll see life a whole new way. =)

Have my Ego, I don’t want to know it anymore.

Have my Ego, I don’t want to know it anymore.

Take my masks too.

Each of them:

the i’m better, i’m smarter, i’m sexier, i’m richer, i’m fitter

What good is 1,000 facebook or tagged friends, when you sit home alone…..in a room…..looking at a screen……and hoping that someone other than a “Cheat on Your Wife” or “Give me your email address”…..gets in touch to let you know that you exist.

If life is truly for living as we all proclaim, then why do we all spend our time working in jobs we hate and only rarly contacting people through non personal mediums such as tagged, facebook, or my space?

If we really want to date somone that looks like Pamela Anderson or George Clooney, then why don’t we stop them in the coffee shop or in the street and just say Hi……?

Rich is he who considers himself least of all !!!!!!!

Soon…..I’ll head back into the shadows of the real world where you and I will meet……when I spark up a conversation in a public place and you will think “who is this nutter trying to chat to me”

Try to find me if you can………I promise…….you may not find me the first time…….but you’ll find everywhere waiting for you to talk to me……..and I will see you……..waiting for me to talk to you….

If only one of us were brave enough!!!!!

Is Death A Secret?

What is death?
Most of us perceive death as stopping of our hearts and the death of our physical bodies. Some scientists depending on which type you talk to may say that it’s a trasfer of energy from one state to another.

How does it affect human behaviour?
For centuries we have glorified it. Sacrificed women, children and animals to the Gods. Even today in some parts of the world we are addicted to it’s meaning and the ultimate meaning of it as defined by a God. Addicted to a point of ignorance of others and it even causes the brutal murder of others. An eye for an eye.

They say that drug addicts do not free themselves from the drug because they fear life. The responsibilities; the cross that must be carried.

What does the church know and hide?
What’s the secret? Why are some of the oringal works within the new testament no longer within the testament. Why were they left out after being originally submitted, aren’t they God’s word? Should he/she not be bear the responsiblity for what the masses hear? Is the church a modern day corrupt banking system? After all the church approved the The Knights Templar to slaughter muslims in Juresalem and the The Knights Templar was responsible for the first banking system.

Are you already dead?
Or at least living life like you are dead. Not exploring the world, the people, ourself? If you knew you just died at the end of life would it make a difference?

If you knew what was to happen after death would you live differently?
What if there was no God as we currently know it? What if it is a man made drug to surpress and scare the masses? What if God was a universal intelligence, of which many scientists currently believe, that will supply anything we dream of, even if we dream of nightmares? What if we convinced ourselves that God was a drug that we did not want to give up because we are afraid of living? Not unlike the addict. Fearful of responsiblities and all that life is.

Is death / God a coverup to instill fear in the masses?
Would you live any differently knowing their was no God? What you take those chances and risks that you don’t take at the moment? Would you let loose and go wild like the animal you are?

I Give Up, I Just Don’t Care Anymore

How many times do we say this to ourselves?

Per Day? A week? A year?

Is it just you?

Is it just me?

Here’s the catch. The more we say it the more we really mean it. The mind has incredible abilities to help you on your way if you really want to.

The mind also has incredible abilities to mend a broken leg, to heal itself from cancer, to mend the entire body back into a functional machine just so you can go about doing whatever else you want to do in your life. Ref: “The Miracle Man” : Mr.Morris Goodman found handly for your browsing reference when you chose: The Miracle Man

His ability to this or our ability to do this is a power accessible to you and you alone. Nobody else can work it for you. Your brain will think and believe what you want it to believe. “Imagination….. is the preview to life’s coming attractions” – Albert Einstein.

What do you think your thoughts are? The conversations in your mind that prepare you for what’s about to manifest into a reality, because you want it to.

How this happens is explained in other posts throughout my blog. Don’t ask me where they are, I don’t keep track…..What I do know….is that if you hoke around through the pages you may not find what your looking for, it could be something completly different. So keep your eyes out.

Anyhow, mainfesting into reality, they are thoughts like what will I say to my partner to get them to go along with what I want to do this weekend. Perhaps they’re more like what am I going to tell my boss when he asks for my sales figures, asks about the big deal that didn’t come through and oh yeah, why I haven’t got a baldy about what else is in the pipeline because I’ve been trying to get the big deal through!!!!!!!!

If that doesn’t work for you, just think of any person you know you will meet in the future. Perhaps not someone your wife or husband but like a friend or an associate, or whomever. Why are you meeting them?

What are you planning on saying to them? Is it something they’ll like to hear or not like to hear?

So you’ve planned what your going to say? You’ve planned what they might respond with? Or how you’ll butter them up before telling them?

The point is…..you imagine the conversation……you’ve previewed it in your imagination…..it soon becomes a reality manifested through your attraction of that particular scenario.

So our imagination can build rockets? Go to outer space? Create a miniture “big bang” in a contained environment. Again, I leave a link should your interest spike. “Big Bang”

So, if Albert is right, and we can create just about anything we imagine……..then isn’t it time we stopped imagining that nothing is going to work out for us, that girl won’t like me because i’m not good looking, i’ve no friends at school because nobody likes me, i’m being bullied in work by my ass hole boss, my wife cheated because I don’t know how to love, my parents are alchoholics and I don’t love anyone, my mother is a junkie and I’ve no chance in life, my son is a murderer and everyone will think I created him, my father is a rapist and people will think he touched me……………………

Isn’t it time we start imagining that anything is possible and that you can achieve it. “What the mind can conceive it can achieve” : Napolean Hill a millionaire life changing coach that was previously an armed outlaw from an old appalachian background. I’ll leave the link for you pleasure…………“Napolean Hill Story”

Whether you are the ass hole boss, the junkie, or the “VICTIM” in the penultimate paragraph, just remember that it’s all in your mind. You can change your life. Your wife, Your fortunes, you only get one shot in life…..don’t let your mistakes in the past stop you from succeeding in your future! All that you want in your mind will reside in your mind. Be it impossibilities. It will make itself a home and you two will enjoy each others company unless you manage to entertain the other possibilities that life has to offer you.

What possibilities? Two movies: Watch both. Both linked for your convenience. Please enjoy and I’d love to know if it changed yours. From one seeker of dreams and new realities to another, go with God’s speed and drop back by to say you made it! It would change my life forever. =)

One you can watch on you tube and the other they will send you your own copy. See you in the future.

What the bleep do we know
The Secret:

How Much Do You Give Of Yourself To Others?

There’s a question.

So we know that giving is good. We know that it releases oxytocin in the brain and improves health and overall happiness.

So what are we to do when others don’t want what you want to give them.

We are rejected.

Most of us living species of human make most decisions on the fear of rejection.

We say what we think “they” want us to hear. We comply with “they” want and we agree with “them” because we don’t want to cause an arguement. We don’t want to hurt their feelings. We need to be politically correct.

So then, what does a human do with this life changing ability to feel? Sometime it feels more like what we can’t do. What I’m we’re not suppose to do. And we spent most of our time trying to cover how we really feel!

In fact, i’d go as far as to say that I / “we” would nearly “act” as we want to be percieved rather than who we actually are.

My neigbour went through a couple of weeks of torture ( I would say ) with the loudness of the music I was playing. Her head was wrecked, torturing herself with the emotions associate with the feelings of “will I say something, will I knock on the door and say something, or will I just keep my mouth shut, be politically correct ( a good neighbor ).”

All the time I had no clue. I live in an extension room of the house, no shared walls. There is an ally between their window and mine. We seem to think at the moment it could have something with the echo it produces, but generally they can hear the music I play.

The point is, they didn’t say anything, they were just living with it. All the time, I was clueless about how they were feeling. How would I have know I was causing this grief if they didn’t tell me? Such a shame.

Such a shame that when we are not true to ourselves and others for the the fear of rejection, when we keep everything locked up inside us, and little do we know, that all we have to do solve our problems, to make our life better, all we have to do , is to tell people how we truly feel.

All we have to do now, is learn how to accept how other people truly feel without being defensive, or being offended by how they make us feel.

As soon as we take control of our emotions; when we own them; when they are truely ours and no one else can tweek with the emotions button, then we’ll be able to truely live in peace and happiness.

Madness how giving is suppose to be so good to do, but our society today conditions us to believe that even giving of our true throughts and feelings are something to keep to ourselves. How are we to give anything to anyone else in the world when we can’t even give them our thoughts and true feelings.

If we can’t give, we can’t live!

Start to today. Please, give yourself to others. If not for your sake, then please, for my sake.

Who is a genuine person?

This is a question on my mind lately and it’s full of skeletons.

I’ll explain why I believe this to be a bit of a mind bender matrix style question.

Let’s move from simple observations to deeper levels of understanding. To know if someone else is genuine you must first look at the world and people around you and then take a closer look at yourself.

The world first:
Look at how wars are started. The reasons for which they are started. Blackmail, hate, distrust, love and lies. The world itself has “Economic Hitmen.” People working for governments who convince countries to take out loans with the offer to have experienced skilled corporations enter the country, create infastructure and teach them abour westernised technologies and capitalism. The borrowed country pays what it borrowed straight back into the hands of the country that gave the loan. The foreign corporations that entered the country continue to pay taxes, create employment and drive up stocks in the home market.

Did anyone tell the smaller country they were getting raped? What is harder to swallow is that leaders who overthrew their home governments in order to cease the pivliging of their citizens’ taxes, taxes utilised to repay interest on foreign loans, were threatened, overthrown by imposters or brutally murdered. By whom? Well you can put one and one together yourself. And if you can’t. Look up books like “Economic Hitman” by John Perkins.

The People Around Us:
How often have you been out with a friend who blatenly lies to someone you don’t know? How often have you been with a family member who has blatently lied to another family member and you knew it? Need I say more about the ability to lie to one’s friends and family?

Ourselves:
Lied to seem cool? Lied to make friends? White Lies to impress upon your Mr. or Mrs. Charming? Lied to save your ass? Lied to yourself?

Where do you think all these lies get you or us or me?

There are many people that are offering groundbreaking studies on the power of thought. Truth in your thoughts. Gratitude in your thought. Self-realisation in your thoughts. Autonomity of thought.

Yada yada……what am I saying?

Jerry Stocking discusses and trains people to become conscious of thier thoughts. His training, if you’re brave enough to go through, will smash your paradigm of who you really are. We create lies to hide behind lies to hide behind lies. One way to look at it is like this: Have you felt the need to tell someone how you feel or give them something, like a hug, but you didn’t?

That’s the a baseline for you to look at. Why didn’t you give them a hug when you wanted to, you didn’t because you were afraid to. You feared the unknown consequence. Fear of rejection? You feared how it would be percieved; by them and maybe even by yourself. So what did you do? You lied to yourself something that allowed you to walk away from the moment and from what you really wanted to say or do.

Were you being genuine?

A millionaire coach named T Harv Eker who discusses the associations we make when children. How we associate certain learnings in our lifes with occurences that were beyond our control at that time.

We live with the barriers and impossibilities right through adulthood unless we sit down with ourselves take a long hard look, proactively strip back the masks and question our believes.

Carl Jung has a beutiful quote. ( persecuted by the governement and his work destroyed ). The quote was about a process he called indivduation. A process of exploring yourself and finding out who you really are. Past the ego and deeper. He believed when we truly realised who we are we can live much more fulfilled lifes. Paraphrased it sounds something like “a modern person must be aware of their dreams, explore religions and spirtuaity, and question the current operative societal structure ( rather than live blindly according to norms or customs. )

With modern day living, most people don’t have the time to explore things they like doing, don’t mind sitting down to explore the innerself and all that mombo jumbo.

Genuine: definition

adjective
1. of the original stock; purebred
2. really being what it is said to be or coming from the alleged source or origin; not counterfeit or artificial; real; true; authentic
3. sincere and frank; honest and forthright

So when looking for someone genuine, what are the chances of finding someone?

When looking for someone genuine, can you give it in return?

How do you define a leader?

You’re probably reading this because you consider yourself a leader and you are wondering who is trying to tell YOU that you are not a leader. This is great news because you’re actively attracting learning’s that create the leader within you.

Leadership is often romanticized as this warrior leading his men into battle. A leader that delegates responsibilities and whips people into shape. However, true leadership can often hide in the shadows as an unassuming force. A force of exploration and subtle influence.

I find the best way to lead people is to subtly create within their consciousness a desire to accomplish the objective rather than to lead through dictation. I’ve been in the army, the corporate world and have been an athlete. I view true leadership as form of communication closer to coaching than a hierarchical force. True leadership may even be the adaptation of your plans to fit into the goals and desires that have arisen within those that you are trying to lead. In other words, take a path more comfortable for your followers that still leads to your final destination.

People are you’re vehicle to arrive at your vision. And you are theirs. You must compromise if you are to arrive together safely.

As a leader, your skills at igniting enthusiasm for your vision, will be defined by your flexibility, patience and empathy.

People that look to leaders, do so because they cannot see how to accomplish the goals within the “big picture” alone. Because of this, it is imperative that, as a leader, you realize that they cannot see all that you can. Therefore it is your responsibility to show them the closest achievable next step. If you are a parent, then you will identify with the above statement.

Therein lies the structure needed by you to guide people closer to where you want to lead them. As a leader you must guide them to the next step, not necessarily the final destination. That’s what I mean by romanticized. You could talk until you’re blue in the face about your vision that lays patiently awaiting you in a distant future and how people should band together now and work to arrive at the final destination. But if those around you cannot see how to get there; if they cannot see that it is achievable, then they may not have the energy needed to keep themselves on a track that, in their mind, leads no where quickly.

So what do we need to do as leaders to build support for a vision?

Identify the stages of progress to the final destination. Breakdown the stages into three or four bullet point type sub-stages. The path of the vision should be clearly identified pragmatically not unlike giving simple directions to a destination: down x street for 200m and turn left just before the building Y.

Once the stages and sub-stages are easily identifiable, then is the time to build support and ignite the enthusiasm of others by asking them what they believe is the best way / fastest way / cheapest way/ smartest way to get to the first sub-stage. And so forth and so on.

In other words you’re empowering them to head towards the vision by giving them a destination not to far from where they are. This gives them the confidence to take the first step. In fact, because you have asked them how to get to the first step they will farm energy and instinct from within themselves to propel them to the first sub-stage of the final vision.

Do this and every sub-stage acts a fueling station rather than a reminder of the distance remaining to the final destination. Every sub-stage is an accomplishment. =)

Life is about empowering others! Imagine what your life would be like if your boss always empowered you rather than berated you. What if your friends empowered you and requested that they be allowed to support you! Imagine for just a minute that everyone in your life told you that your dreams can be your reality and were actually there to help you achieve your dreams.

That world does not have to remain a fantasy. It begins with you. It begins with you the leader.

Be that person you want others to be to you. Request you be allowed to support someone. Tell them you won’t take no for an answer. Be of assistance to others. When you take a leading role in developing and supporting those around you, you have taken the first step in being a true leader!

The learning’s from helping others achieve will provide you the skills you need to lead others when the time necessitates it.

Feeling Alone and Not Yourself?

Ok, so you are alone and not feeling the best?

There’s a very good reason why you don’t feel yourself i.e happy, enthusiastic, vitality etc.
That’s because your body is lacking in Oxytocin. You see, we humans are hard wired to rely on this chemical. It’s a chemical that keeps your heart healthy, fights cancer, helps you remember and contributes to the feeling of happiness.

It is a neuropeptide made up of nine amino acids. It is made in an area of the brain called the hypothalamus and also in the heart. One of the simplest consequences is that it makes you less shy and more confident. It allows you to build trust more easily when it’s in higher levels. You will give more to others and trust them more without knowing anything about them. Generally you’re happier and healthier.

Six ways to increase it in your body.

1) Get inspired. Watching movies like Happiness and Oprah are things that would increase it’s production.
2) Get a Massage. Any physical touching, hugging and so forth increases levels.
3) Express Your emotions. Just get it off your chest and say why you feel a certain way.
4) Pet a dog or cat etc..
5) Support a Loved One. Doing things for others. Giving to other in time or money increase it’s production.
6) Give a hug.

This chemical is vital. It fights cancer, regenerates the heart tissue, softens you arteries for reduced blood pressure and many other life extending and enhancing benefits.

We often don’t do enough for ourselves. We are social creatures. Our DNA is programmed for certain behaviors. If we do not oblige we are effectively prohibiting our full potential or even worse killing ourselves slowly.

So go out there and give hugs! Support someone, Give to others and live a long and prosperous life! =)

Shhhhh I’m a secret.

This is what we tend to do each day. We keep ourselves not only from the world but also from ourselves.

We have grown up pretending to be this or that. Protecting this identity that we think we are.

We don’t realise that in time and space we are a constantly evolving: a changing entity.

That it is illogical for us to defend who we are because we may not be who we were just a short time ago.

If we continue to defend who “we think we are” then we continue to defend who we “were”, without just notice to who we “are” just now.

There’s a chance that we could be defending a character or identity that was developed as a child, one type of insecurity screen that filters everything through our consciousness before being admitted into our subconscious.

We imprison ourselves from learning more about who we “are” when we defend who we “were.” Progression and enlightenment can not occur in a mind that thinks that it knows all it needs to know about a subject.There are always more new ways at looking at something with the gaining of more experience we witness in our own life’s this truth. We see that how we used to feel about certain subject changed as we grew older and wiser.

Major breakthroughs in my life using this philosophy recently. I am being thanked and finding so much more love in my life because I am destroying the screens that I’ve created through my life. I am stopping the filtering process and allowing me to be me. Others in my life, three specifically, each have experienced a renewal and rebirth along with my journey.

Literally, I am creating my environment. It is manifesting into the vision I desire.

The very important note to all of this is that: I did not realize that the manifestation of my desired vision or state would also mean that does people around me would also change in accordance to how I want my relationship to be with them. In other words, they are changing into the people I envisioned them being. They go through a change. I thought previously that It would be my perception that would change but I’m wrong, they are actually changing into alignment.

Powerful stuff……try study, ask your own questions before responding or judging. I’ve nothing to prove. So an attack or a defensive result caused from reading this will solely be your own emotions not mine. They are your responsibility.

If stuff intrigues you head over to Jerry Stocking. The awakening web. Him along with movies like the secret, what the bleep do we know and BBC’s The century of the self, Barnay, Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung and most importantly the real people…..The Baka People: People of the Forest.

I hope this helps in your journey of self discovery. It’s instrumental to mine.

Go Get Em

Yes, You Did Ask For It ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !

Immediately, you’ll begin reading this, analyzing this text with a preconception affront of your mind, and that concern when listened to frankly and openly, is my friends, ” I’ll tell you, If I asked for it or not ! ! ! ! ! “

Immediately, we put up barriers to protect ourselves. We arm ourselves ready for battle against any opinion put towards us. It’s all very natural.

Well, that is called your conscious. It protects your subconscious from absorbing erroneous information. The subconscious is the real soul of your being. You could imagine the root of the spinal cord being the entrance to the soul. Where one dimension meets another. I’m sure a study of those particular cells and their electromagnetic makeup would throw some interesting light on the subject. But hey, I could be wrong right?

Anyway, your conscious complies with generating the means of supplying the subconscious’s desire.

Your consciousness responds to creating you desires possible, it acts like a on of those things on railways that make trains change track – except a mini one.

Imagine your consciousness as one of these min track changers. And your life, the train.

The mini track changers can change the direction of your life but only a very small degree at a time. It counts on the momentum of your subconscious to carry on propelling your body in that direction.

So, if you wake up one day and ask yourself “how the hell did I get here?” Then it may also be good to also ask “Who the hell is behind the wheel?”

All is not over! Do not fret.

Don’t forget that your direction is carried forward constantly, like a train, and that it does not stop unless something pulls the breaks, for instance death.

You have not arrived where you currently are in life. You are still on the journey. You can still change the mini tracks.

You will soon see that once changed, you will begin to notice it is a slightly different journey. A train does not do U-turns very easily, it would take a decent amount of track to get the train in the opposite direction.

The more mini tracks you can change in your life. The closer you will be in the direction of your choice.

Like my great grandmother used to always say.

“Take care of the pennies, and the pounds will take care of themselves.”

Set the alarm to get up a half hour earlier, go on a long walk, or a jog once a week to start. Before you know it, your momentum will care you to the destination in your vision of your future.

Stop smoking one less cigarette per day for a week. Then one more less per day the following week. You’ll eventually get your goal and you may build your confidence along the way.

“Take the first step in faith, you don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step”
—–Martin Luther King Jr.